A prospective slave’s questionnaire. Which will it be? Simply role play or???

You do realize that there is play slavery and there is real slavery.

Before we get into this too deeply I do want to know which interests you?


And so we begin!

Step over the line if you are serious!

If not we will just pretend.


I need the basics to begin with.



Sexual Orientation

Relationship or Marriage status

Employed, Self-employed, Retired, Other?



Even if you have experienced BDSM in person, when you sign on with a new

Mistress even online,you are very vulnerable. For both of our sakes I want you

to answer yes or no to each of the following or make some comment about a given category.




body worship


fetish shoes nylons corsets


schedule control

dietary control

wardrobe control

reporting in daily

involving Mistress in decisions about major purchases

masturbation control

sex with wife, girlfriend, or significant other control

edginess and risks

voluntary tributes or discussion of coerced payments via blackmail

are you willing to be on Skype cam for Mistress?

hint of cross dressing in public ( panties under your male clothing or wear a pink shirt)

cock cage enforced chastity

edginess and risks


do add anything else here that you are interested in or expect



At the minimum I will require the following:

You to wear a collar and be naked when you phone me.

You will perform online research tasks for me as I am working on goodies, blog and other writing projects.

If you come up with inspirations for blog posts or goodies I would be delighted.






click here to see my listings on Niteflirt






Protocol for a proper slave’s call to me on Niteflirt

Protocol for a call.


If this is a call on my Niteflirt line only:


You will prepare in advance at all times before you call me .

If we have made arrangements in advance for a day and time for you to call, you MUST comply. If you have extenuating circumstances you will notify me by Niteflirt email.

You will remove all distractions and be sure we are going to be uninterrupted for the expected duration.

You will be sure your Niteflirt account is topped off so we will not have to stop while you add more $$

You will strip naked and put on your collar. It is essential that you use these physical cues to anchor your submissive experience into both your conscious thoughts AND your subconscious patterns. Going forward we will adjust gear in accordance with the description of our play time ( for instance if you are into feminization I will always have you wearing nylons and panties when you call.) Your mind will begin to form associations. Just holding your slave collar and preparing to put it on will rivet your intention to the expectation of the “sub space” ahead. Imagine yourself kneeling before your Mistress as she buckles you into your collar herself . Imagine the significance…. it is a symbol of devotion, dedication, obedience, ownership! Hold the collar in both hands, bring it to your lips , kiss it, say aloud “I belong to Mistress”. Then feel the leather encircle your neck, enjoy the sound of the fastener snapping or buckling into place. Feel how this one small act completes you, gives you purpose and reason! Anyone who could see the collar would immediately KNOW that you are owned, you are property, you are an object to be used by Mistress as it suits her whim. The collar has one or more metal loops to which Mistress’ leash will be fastened. Mistress will of course use this to keep you where she pleases. She will give it a smart tug to make a point or bring you to attention if she sees you slacking. Even if for now the leash is only in our imagination the virtual leash can be even more powerful than an actual chain-lead. Slave and Mistress are at a distance so many aspects of our interaction will be “virtual”, but think of it this way: a physical collar may be removed simply and put away in a drawer but a “virtual” collar imbued in your spirit NEVER comes off.


If your call is going to simultaneously be a Niteflirt call AND a Skype call:


Talking on the phone is passable but you will find in the long run if we are going to communicate on a regular basis, we should run a Skype call simultaneously with our open line on Niteflirt. That way Niteflirt makes its commission and I am in accordance with their Terms of Service. The reasons for the Skype call include


  • My ability to instantly send you links to various articles or photos online that will be informative and stimulating to us both.


  • The ability for both of us to wear a wireless headset… you will be amazed at the sound quality! This way I can hear every word you say ( how annoying is it to have to tell you to REPEAT) and I can also hear your whispers, your whimpers and your breathing (all important cues to my narrative!) If you intend to use Skype you must invest in a decent wireless headset such as this:https://www.walmart.com/ip/Plantronics-Gamecom-818-Wireless-Stereo-Headset-for-PC-Mac-and-PlayStation-4-Universal/102141729
  • plantronics headsetThis is the one I use. There is no echo then, from my voice coming over your PC speakers and you are not tethered to your PC. You will LOVE the improvement of the sound of my voice!


  • The ability for you to display yourself to me on Skype cam. This will guarantee that you are following my instructions and will allow me to keep a firm grip on control of our sessions. If you are worried about anonymity you may shoot from the neck down or wear a mask or hood. We can discuss this in depth if needed. FYI Mistress never gets on cam.


Remember you are always expected to answer respectfully using Ma’am , Mistress, or Goddess. If you decline a request the reasons must be explained. Remember reasons are allowable, EXCUSES ARE NOT.


So your next assignment is to get a wireless headset and send me your Skype ID. It is advisable to establish a new Skype account if you already have lots of contacts so you will not be disturbed while we are interacting.




Feeling Naughty?

lavendarlashavHello! are you feeling extra naughty today?

In case this is your first visit to my blog I am a natural lifestyle dominant, have been so my whole life and I just ADORE sweet submissive males! Do you consider yourself submissive? Do you love it when a woman takes charge? mmmm I get so very excited just thinking about calling all the shots, making all the moves!

Do tell me what is your favorite fantasy about a dominant woman! Do you seek out women in charge in real life or is this just a deep dark secret in your fantasy life? You know it always surprises me that men who are powerful and very accomplished in their professional lives do passionately crave to be taken over and commanded by a dominant female. Or is it the opposite? Are you someone who is just too shy for words? Do you long to have a female take total charge and lead the way with every step? Oh darling, I do understand!
I will be delighted to take our conversations in whatever direction pleases you most ,but my specialties are
1) encouraging my beautiful boys who enjoy dressing in sensuous female clothing to strut their stuff for me!
2 ) remote domination… monitoring and scheduling your life in a way that you can feel my commands taking over your days and
3) financial domination… you can read between the lines here, darling … you KNOW exactly what I mean! Feel my velvet-gloved fingers slipping into your wallet!For those who establish a regular visits with me, I do encourage you showing me your self on cam in skype. I do not get on cam myself, but I find viewing my submissives on cam encourages obedience and enhances enjoyment.  The skype session must be simultaneous with a NiteFlirt call. I would ADORE to see you in heels and nylons or watch you paddle yourself while I count the strokes or better still watch you cum just for ME!!!!


I am also toying with themes for little scenarios for voice recordings called “Goodies” that will be for sale on my Nite Flirt page. So keep checking back!


My NiteFlirt listings …. call me!





What to expect!

I will be using this blog to publish some of My thoughts and fantasies as well as actual methods I use to remotely dominate a submissive. My favorite mode of communication is of course phone ( Skype) but I also do use email and text chat . I do this professionally on Nightflirt.com. mouse shoes2Some of the tales come from actual interactions I have with My dear subbie and some are strictly fantasy. I will leave it up to you to decide which category you might think any given story occupies.

If you are wondering why I chose the image of the mouse under My feet… well I love to think of my subbie as mousie and I am Mistress Cat. I find a lighthearted approach and a fanciful conversation a delicious format for some very serious power exchange. You will need to keep this in mind when you encounter the name mousie. It is interchangeable with submissive, subbie, slave, owned-one.